You See a Uterus, I See a Black Hole by J.S.

The moment you walk into a family gathering of mine, the perpetual screaming and whining is unlike anything else. A child. I was so familiar with this noise; the shrill that came from my cousin’s child, my own family. It still made me wince. I walked toward the kitchen and gave my most sincere form of, “Oh wow! She’s growing up so fast!” I leaned over to my mom and gave her a look that plainly said, “There’s no way I am having kids.” I talked with my cousins for several minutes about little Molly’s newest outfit and her latest play-date. My siblings and cousins were all beaming. As long as I can remember, I’ve never gotten along well with children. I never saw the point in having a minivan full of kids, because my desire to have a fruitful career was so much larger.

The expectation of having kids is different for every generation. My grandparents, who grew up in the Age of Conformity, were eager to start families; it was right after World War 2. “It was just the norm to buy a house and start a family. We craved simplicity,” said Diane Garnsey, 78. There were expectations that every couple met in the 1950s. Everyone expressed satisfaction in their lives; there were jobs and social security. However, about a decade later, the trend was changing, according to manythings.com. There were riots in the cities over The Vietnam War. The country was in social upheaval. As the norm for women switched from housewife to equal rights, the expectation to have children was lessened. Women joined the workforce. They no longer cared to be secretaries and receptionists. According to manythings.com, “Women felt there was more to life than having kids.” There was clear dissatisfaction with restrictive female roles in society. There was so little desire to be the mother of several children, because women had finally wanted freedom.

In the 1960s, the pill, a form of contraceptive was given to women. Many U.S. citizens were against the pill because it encouraged women to be promiscuous without the chance of reproduction. These arguments nonetheless sparked more riots in America. Women began demanding equal rights in the workplace, education, and in politics. Pop-culture also had a large effect on whether to stick to the status quo and have babies. The Beatles, a rock band from Liverpool, England, began spreading the phrase, “do your own thing.” And people did just that. These people were against traditional values, and encouraged others to promote personal freedom.

The stigma that came along with deciding to have children stemmed from the opportunity to have a career. Women in the 1960s were forced to choose one or the other. For the first time, women were given an option. Emily Schneider, 24, stated, “if a woman wants to be the primary caregiver to her children, being a senior level associate in a fortune 500 company should not be an option. I would not say it’s wise to try and have it all.” Many people would disagree with this. Such as Michelle Adams, 26, “I believe a woman can have it all. Whether that means having a whole bundle of kids as well as owning your own business. I think women, especially in this day and age, can make all those decisions and succeed.” A touching sentiment, but is it really possible? I had an interview with Elizabeth Garnsey, 43, a single mother and a teacher, “I am the only financial support system my son has. I had him through a sperm donor so there’s no other parent for him. I make a good living as a teacher, but it is incredibly hard work. I wish I didn’t have to be alone in this, but I have everything I want. Sometimes I feel absent in his life because there’s no one else in our home.” Luckily, Elizabeth has other family members who’re willing to help babysit her son, Charlie; he is about four years old.

Fortunately, for women, society has come a long way. Women have the right to choose to have a career, a child or both. I will be taking the path of no children. But to the women who are courageous enough to do both: I tip my Female Cap to you.

Feminism by M.W

Feminism

 

Equality

That is what feminism means

It doesn’t mean that they praise women by diminishing men

It doesn’t give us the right to think that women are better than men

That is not what it means to be a feminist

Feminists fight for equal power

We fight for women to have EQUAL opportunities as men

To be allowed on the same sports teams

To be paid the same

To be treated with the same respect

To wear our hair short and have baggy shorts without being called out for it

We deserve to dress and act the way we want

We don’t have to follow the perfect picture that society paints of us

Tall but not to tall

Skinny but not too skinny

Wear makeup but not too much

Have a gracious attitude and cater to other people’s every needs

Have long hair and tan skin

I say why should we?

We should be allowed to wear our hair in messy bun

To wear the amount of makeup we choose

To be so short that have to look up when having a conversation or so tall that you can never wear heels

We should be allowed to have curves

We should be allowed to love ourselves without everyone saying that we are overconfident

Girls

Love your body

And love yourself

Please. Care. By R.G

Please, Care

 

You say that you don’t care what others think? Let’s think about this.

You, who shouts at people to avert their eyes whenever they happen to look upon you.

You, who wears short shorts and skirts for yourself and no one else.

Please, accept the fact that you do care what others think,

That you do dress for others, and that is okay.

People say they want respect, that they want to be valued as an individual, yet they make no effort to try and make you respect them.

You want a job working for a high profile company when you spent hours of your life letting someone draw on your body.

You express your individualism at the sacrifice of your future life.

Kids nowadays, there is an award at every step of life.

There’s no motivation to value what others think of you, only what you think of yourself.

Darwinian selection, it disagrees.

So please, care.